Why is Church Full of Fat Slobs?
OK, forgive the title, I’m just trying a ’shocking’ title to see if it improves my google hits…Â
I have a friend who is a Seventh Day Adventist. I don’t know a whole lot about them except that they are an of shoot of the Methodist church and they place a huge emphasis on living a healthy lifestyle. This is a vast difference from the Methodist church (which I once was part of), in fact it opposite of most churches, at least in the US.
The Methodist Church cannot do anything with out having food; and it’s NEVER healthy food. They’ll have a potluck at the drop of a hat… Need a work day to rake leaves around the property – potluck, Vacation Bible School for the kids – potluck, host a live music event – potluck, pastor’s hernia operation – potluck..
At almost every church I’ve attended in the past 20 years, there’s always an pre/post service feed bag. The last ‘brick and mortar’ church we attended was a very progressive emergent church (founded by none other than Brian McClaren). They are very Socially aware and responsible, but what do they offer pre/post service? Dunkin Donuts by the case and Bagels with cream cheese… Even at the ‘Fair Trade’ coffee table they have a selection of flavored [high fructose corn] syrups and creamers to dump in.
I am involved with an ecumenical group called The Road to Emmaus. They put on 10 3-day retreats a year, 5 for men and 5 for women. Powerful stuff t build leaders in the local church. Now I lift weights regularly and watch what I eat and still have trouble keeping my weight under control, but I tell my wife that the one place I can go and feel skinny is on an Emmaus weekend. 50-60 men 80% of whom qualify as obese, I guess you can tell who are ‘active’ in the church (since there’s usually food at every activity. And on the weekends themselves, talk about food… tons and tons of junk. The last one I went on I came home with a half dozen bread palates of uneaten food that I donated to the food pantry.
What’s one of the major issues (at least in the US) that keep people from loving themselves? Their appearance… and what is the first prerequisite for loving your neighbor? Loving yourself. Why is there not more emphasis and responsibility in the church promoting healthy lifestyle? Not only do they not promote it, they facility unhealthy eating habits…
Grrrr…. that’s my 2 cents.
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Christian Beyer
(blog author) says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 2:57 pmWell, if they would drink more they probably would eat less. And if you want your title to get picked up by more spiders I suggest changing it to something like:
“Why Don’t More Church People Look Sexy Naked?”
tam
says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 3:02 pmDrink more what???
Food attracts. It’s marketing. When I was in the 5th grade I went to church with my Grandparents throughout one summer…well, almost throughout. The 1st Sunday of each month they would serve Pastries and juices. That’s the Sunday I went. All the others I was sick in bed.
Also, food gathering promotes fellowship. I agree though that more emphasis on caring better for our temple would be wise!
BuddyO
(blog author) says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 3:21 pmOk, is that an argument for or against..? Should we really be marketing church? Man, that’s a hot button for me… AHHRGGH!
The fellowship thing is true, I think that’s probably why most do it. But why not apples, grapes, fresh made whole grain breads instead of glazed doughnuts?
tam
says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 3:30 pmAgainst…in terms of bribery. But I think some would view street evangelizing and handing out church invites as marketing too. It depends on your perspective I guess. I don’t know, I haven’t thought too much on this subject. Obviously you have…what’s your beef?
“But why not apples, grapes, fresh made whole grain breads instead of glazed doughnuts?”
Taste. JUST kidding!
BuddyO
(blog author) says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 3:49 pmWhat’s your beef… funny.
Well, I talked about it a little bit here. but my general feeling is that we shouldn’t be marketing church at all. I think that’s what has got a lot of churches where they are now… seeker freindly and gospel poor.
Shouldn’t we just be living in a way that exemplifies Christ everyday. I’m not sure we should be lureing them into a man-made, man-run institution that will only end up turning many of them off. Let them find Christ and He’ll get them to a church, one where He feels they’ll grow.
tam
says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 3:51 pmWhat the?!?!
That live traffic feed thingy in your sidebar…that’s weird. It’s like…stalking.
Guys and their gadgets!
KathyO
(blog author) says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 4:02 pmWow, Buddy, you’ve got some issues. Besides we didn’t have a potluck for the pastor’s hernia operation, it was for his colonoscopy.
Unfortunately we are surrounded by excess in this country. We then become immune to it. Sheeesh, just go have a meal at the Golden Corral Buffet. I’d say that roughly 60-70% of the people that eat there are morbidly obese. I remember my son one time saying, rather loudly as a large man walked by with an overflowing plate, “Gosh mom, doesn’t he know he can go back and get more later?”.
I think that food is something that brings people together. It brings families together around the dinner table.
Honestly, I think that obesity is not seen as a sin but as a health issue. I kind of think that churches or church groups may be afraid to speak out about it. It’s a very sensitive issue.
On the bright side, there are new “christian” books and workshops out there that do address this issue. Thin Within is a great program.
Besides, haven’t you all seen the new Joyce Meyers Kickboxing dvd? Or Benny Hinn’s cardio dvd “Slaying to the Oldies”? Man, where have you people been?
tam
says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 4:21 pmI think Pastors, and/or church leaders, see a decrease in attendance or just plain ole low numbers as a personal attack or reflection on them. It’s a very shallow, insecure yet arrogant stance to take if truly being viewed that way. But what leader is really gonna admit that. I don’t they’re mostly concerned with the “offenders” spiritual connection with God as much as they are their connection with their building.
We don’t have to “sell” Christ. God is GOD – He can “market” Himself! I think a good church facility and program is attractive by way of character and integrity and humility. Hard to find…but they’re out there! I truly am a part of one.
Kathy..HAHAHAHA! Colonoscopy…good one!
Obesity by choice is lack of self control and discipline “out loud”. Although I struggle with those too – you just can’t see them as easily
But I struggle with them in areas that Pastors tend to teach on.
KathyO
(blog author) says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 4:23 pmYou know the saying about boys and their toys…well, I don’t but maybe somebody does.
I don’t think that it is marketing church. I have always found the potlucks to be more for the existing members. I’m not sure we should be lureing them into a man-made, man-run institution that will only end up turning many of them off Any church is man-made, even our simple church. Don’t we ask people to join? Just be careful not to throw the baby out with the bath water. Yes, I am probably the first to say that today’s churches may not be as they should but there is a lot of good churches out there too. If they serve doughnuts, more power to them. Some of our most incredible times of growth have been while we have been involved in the church.
Maybe it just goes back to that Big C little C church. Shouldn’t we just be living in a way that exemplifies Christ everyday Big C church. man-made, man-run institution little c church. But you really can’t have the little c without the big c anyway, right?
KathyO
(blog author) says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 4:25 pmBy the way, did you get the ok from those people to use that picture????
BuddyO
(blog author) says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 10:28 pmWell then, aren’t we all just the comedians…?
Tam, the “Live Traffic Feed” is a bit big brotherish isn’t it? But it’s pretty cool. As I’m writing this comment I see someone from Israel was on my blog reading my article about Revelation. Yikes! A few below that is someone from Ohio who was referred by your blog.. Thanks! You can hide from it if you want if you click the options at the bottom of the window, but what fun would that be..?
OK, so I buy that Kath, that the food is an ‘ice breaker’ of sorts, but why can’t it be healthier?
Seriously, what do you think of the idea that people (particularly women) have such an issue with thier weight and appearance? And how does that play into thier Love for themselves? and of course loving your neighbor as yourself?
Is the church irresponsible in this?
tam
says:
Added on January 10th, 2008 at 11:15 pm“Is the church irresponsible in this?”
The only problem I have with this line of questioning is the tendency to blame too much on the “church”. I don’t think a few potlucks a year at church is making people obese. At what point do we take responsibility for our own choices and actions. There are plenty of people in and out of church that seek out healthy living on their own. People are very aware of its importance. I don’t think it is necessarily the church’s (leaders within a building) responsibility.
ooo-ooo-Medford, OR! That must be me!
kathyo
says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 7:18 amAh, where to begin. I am not sure that the church is responsible for soneone’s obesity. That is without a doubt a personal responsibility. Do I think the church should provide a place or environment where people won’t stumble, yes? Should it be a place of no excess, save that of the Holy Spirit? I think so. I also believe that obesity is not seen as much of a sin. It’s not a political hot button such as abortion. It’s not clear cut in the bible, ie “Thou shalt not sin”. People need to be responsible for their own choices and allow for the consequences resulting of those choices. I was obese at one point and made the decision to change my behavior that was causing it. I don’t buy into things like well, I have a disease and I can’t do anything about my weight. For obvious reasons…Did you know that obesity is considered a disability when Multiple Sclerosis is not? I had no choice in having the MS. Did I have a choice with the extra weight? Absolutely. I think that the church’s responsibility is to equip people to do the right thing but ultimately, it’s our own decision.
Can someone get me a ladder so I can get off my high horse?
Christian Beyer
(blog author) says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 8:21 amDrink more what? Oh, yeah. Booze.
I don’t think the potlucks are part of any type of serious ‘organized’ marketing because:
A. In my minimal experience it was the people who wanted to do it all the time, not the church leaership. Like Kathy said, it was more for the existing members – a sense of community.
B. If it is marketing it’s not working. Just look at “old timey” church religion numbers. Our potlucks were open to anyone and sometimes it was advertised. Didn’t see too many pilgrims at the table though.
I think the idea of eating together goes along with the sense of hospitality that should be prevelant in the church. Besides, eating is one of the few things that everyone does and when they are doing it they are usually ‘happy’. Aren’t too many shared past times that can claim that.
As far as what is consumed – the church leadership pretty much stays out of it. It’s a pot luck; if people wanted to eat (or serve) healthy foods they would bring them. And they do; wait until clean-up time and you can see all those nice, healthy (but not so tasty) dishes sitting there on the table attacting (healthy) flies. (Remember- no A/C so the window’s are open). If some minister or pastor decided to ‘impose’ healthy guidelines on the congregation the uproar would be heard all the way to Whole Foods. Too PC, many would say.
Christian Beyer
(blog author) says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 8:27 amOh, and doesn’t that temple of the holy spirit thing speak more of how we hold within us God’s spirit and share it with others? I really don’t think it has too much to do with our physical condition. Look Joni Erickson Tada (sp?) Sure we shouldn’t ‘destroy’ ourelves with alcolhol, drugs, cigarettes, butter and fat. (Wait a minute! Butter and fat are actually good for us- it was that low fat high carb stuff that was killing us.)
Everything in moderation. Would someone please pass me the mashed potatoes? And more gravy. Thanks.
BuddyO
(blog author) says:
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There’s been a lot of focus on the whole potluck thing (I guess because of the picture). What I’m really interested in is the whole self-esteem, self-love bit and how that influences us loving each other… no one’s taking the bait.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. … Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.
And what about Romans 14
? Certianly you (Jason) could make an argument that contextually it doesn’t apply, but I think it does. While Romans is talking about clean vs unclean food but I thind the over idea of taking responisbility for not contributing to causing your ‘bother’ to struggle. Take:
– let me guess, you guys aren’t buying it. You see nothing wrong with the church putting out a huge display of fat laden donuts in front of a crowd where statistically one quarter of whom are obese. The Souther Baptist seem to be worse!
Christian Beyer
(blog author) says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 11:23 amHey, dude, the problem with donuts is not the fat -it’s the sugar. The problem with bagels ain’t the cream cheese it’s the bread.
Simple carbs (sugar, potatoes, pasta, ‘enriched’ rice, processed bread, fruit juice) are readily used as fuel for the body. If no fuel is needed then it is stored as fat (bread, potates and pasta are converted to sugar first). When you take the carbs in they are digested very quickly almost immediately being absorbed into the bloodstream (this causes the sugar spike which is problematic for hypoglycemic or diabetic individuals). The body senses it doesn’t need all this fuel at this time and (if it is functioning properly) stores it as fat. Now fat found in food and then ingested is not as soluble as carbs and takes longer to digest (in fact much of it is passed right through, as in the proverbial goose, or else can form intestinal blockages, as many people will say about cheese). This slows down the absorption rate of sugar and carbs allowing the body to utilize the smaller amount as needed. Not only that, carbs without fat will often result in a person feeling hungry in another hour or so (like the proverbial Chinese food).
So it is healthier to serve lasagna or even ice cream sundaes than it is to serve a plain baked potato. Better yet, sprinkle some bran or other fiber on top of that potato. (Yuck!) But in lieu of that, add another helping of bacon, cheddar cheese and sour cream to that spud, Bud.
I think the problem with all that food is that it is all that food. The bagel before or after church doesn’t hurt anyone. It’s when one is confronted with the 10 types of entrees, 20 side dishes and countless desserts like at the pot-luck (or Golden Corral). There is a feeling of ’so much food, so little time’. Calories in , no calories out.
How’s that for edification?
tam
says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 11:54 amQuestion: IF we’re still in a Potluck setting…How do we know if another person is distressed by what we eat? It’s a big gathering, there’s no way to know who is gonna be there and all they’re own personal struggles or convictions. AND, I have never seen a gathering of food solely geared toward only donuts and crud. There seems to always be healthy options as well; veggie plates, salads, fruits. Now…if I were to invite someone into MY home that I knew was struggling with food, or alcohol, I would not serve wine or beer and I would definitely serve up something tasty and healthy.
1 Corinthians 6
says, something to the effect… “Anything is permissible for me, but not everything is beneficial for me.†Of course the writer is talking about sexual sin…but “everything” is everything. So it comes down to self control like Buddy said. That is the key. It starts in our thoughts first and we flesh it out. I can’t “flesh” that our for someone else.
I just don’t feel a gathering of believers with an array of food choices is acting irresponsibly. There are always going to be choices to make. We cannot escape that. Like I said before, at some point we each have to shoulder our cross, stand up and make some hard choices.
Kathy, I agree 100% with you about you NOT having a choice to get MS – yet obesity is considered a disease that is unavoidable. Crazy! That makes me pull my hair out! I can get pretty heated about that stuff too!
Christian Beyer
(blog author) says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 12:16 pmWhat’s obesity anyway? Is it based on those arbitrarily derived doctor’s height scales or those things that determine how much body fat you have? The experts keep moving the bar, can’t seem to make up their minds what fat really is.
Someone who has descended form a line of German warrior dwarfs will not have the same physiology as a Masai warrior. Some of those Fiji islanders that used to play for the Ravens – have you ever seen their guts? Want to try calling them fat? And look at John Wayne as Rooster Cogburn – remember when Mattie says at the end,”You are too old and fat to be jumping horses.”? And the Duke replies “Well, come see a fat old man some time!” And he jumps the fence and rides away. Tobacco killed that fat man, not food. This nation is fat/thin obsessed.
Hey, Buddy. I wonder if one of your favorite female vocalists (Karen Carpenter) ever pondered these things.
kathyo
says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 5:17 pmOk Chris, you’ve gone too far with the crack on Karen Carpenter. I’m calling you out!
I think we are arguing semantics when we talk about obesity. We all know what that is. Maybe the best that we can do is BE the example. As it was said, bring healthier dishes to the dinners. Start with making a difference with the youth. Keep youth group activities centered on just that, activities and not food. There are good “christian” workbooks and books on the subject as well as devotionals to deal with overeating. Start an exercise program at your church. Ever seen Joyce Meyer’ kickboxing dvd? Or Benny Hinn’s “Slaying to the Oldies”?
Christian Beyer
(blog author) says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 7:03 pmSorry, I wasn’t trying to make light of a serious illness like anorexia or Ms. Carpenter’s demise. Too many people have suffered through it and lost loved ones. Teenage girls (and I know a few) are obsessed with their appearance and like Buddy said that almost always includes their weight, one way or another. The point I was trying to make is that we are doing the same thing here (sort of). There are people out there who think that they are what they look like (thank God I’m not like that or I would be very depressed.) And one person’s fat is another person’s sexy (ala Reubens)
I’m reminded of this cool sci-fi/fantasy book written about 20 years ago by Larry Niven and Jerry Pournelle called ‘Inferno’; a modern take on Dante’s Inferno. As the protagonist is being led through the different levels of hell he comes across a place which is filled with all these immensely fat people, big as whales, just wallowing about and wailing in misery. He asks who these folks are, what did they do? His guide tells him that they were all the naturally thin people who wanted saccharin banned for “health” reasons.
Slaying the Oldies – that’s good. What about Ernest Angley’s Smack-the-Fat-Outta-Ya program?
BuddyO
(blog author) says:
Added on January 11th, 2008 at 11:34 pmHow about obesity is when our bodies become a health risk? Which is say above 18-20% body fat for men and 20-24% for women.
I like that Jim Baker exercise program, what was that called again..?.. oh yeah, oops this is a family blog.